My Girl Friend

Back when we were in school, one of my girl friends (not girlfriend) had her heart broken by a guy. No surprise there. BUT, then she decided to swear off guys and turn lesbian! What the hell?? Why??! Because of a stupid guy who said he likes you and then changed his mind? It’s not like dating a girl will guarantee you a heartbreak-free relationship!

As a matter of fact, I’d rather be asexual than homosexual. No offense to all you gays out there, but I can never ever be with a girl! I mean, girls are pretty, sweet, kind and nurturing. I should know, I am one after all! But man are they we unbelievably weird at times.

If I wanted to be with someone overanalyzing, overdramatic, and full of drama.. I’d date myself! Why would I want to go through double the PMS times, double the crying, and double the emotions!

I believe men and women were meant to be together for a reason. Men are simple (not simple-minded) and logical. We, on the other hand, are complicated and.. and.. complicated!

This is not to say that all guys are easy going. I knew a guy who was emotional, sensitive, and a think tank. He wanted to be with me. I wanted to RUN!

I mean, come on! I do like the opposite sex, but for God’s sake that person was the male version of ME!

This lady thinks that if there’s going to be one drama queen in the relationship, it’s gotta be her!

[Sorry if I’ve been blogging so randomly and not visiting your blogs more often than I usually do, but I’ve been busy job hunting. It sucks. Big time]

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My Name is L. And I am an Internet Addict.

My Mistake Is Your Lesson

Do you believe in learning from other people’s mistakes? I know I do. My sister is a few years younger than me. I give her advice. A lot. Sometimes it might be too much (for her not for me). But I don’t think there such a thing as too much advice to dish out. There will never be enough advice floating around in the universe.

There are always lessons to be learned. My sister gets angry sometimes, and says that I’m negative, demeaning and controlling. But I’m only trying to help! I’ve always wished I had an older sister to tell me where the shortcuts are so I don’t have to take the long route. So I don’t slip on an icy path and fall.

I’ve been there and done that. I just want to spare her the trouble. A few years difference might not be much, but when she’s just past her teen years and I’m smack in the middle of my 20’s, that’s a lot of lessons learned, and a whole lotta wisdom gained.

Sure I want her to live her life and make her own choices. But there are some things that are just not worth doing. I’m saving her the energy (to go and do something less stupid I hope).

This lady believes that her mistakes can be your lessons learned. And vice versa, of course. How about you?

Crisis of Faith

Do you ever get a crisis of faith? You know, as in you have some doubts about your faith, or start questioning your beliefs. I don't have these things regularly, but it’s just a habit of mine. I’m a thinker. I think A LOT. About big things, little things, nasty things, yummy things.. whatever. So, naturally, I think about religion. A LOT.

It is my utmost belief that religion is equal parts logic, and equal parts faith. I’m Muslim, but I don’t think I am considered a by-the-book Muslim. I believe in God and His prophet, I pray, I give out Zakat, I fast, I don’t drink, I don’t cheat, I don’t steal, I don’t engage in forbidden activities.

I’m no saint, though. Basically, I do what I believe and understand is good for me, and for society in general. Since we were in school, we were taught that religion is ‘fitra’, which is essentially your gut feeling or intuition. We’ve known, since we were at a very young age, that we can do things that hurt people. And we’re taught that some things are wrong and some are right. And THAT, to me, is religion. It’s a guideline that you follow, and attempt to gain peace in your life, and share goodness with others. We will always make mistakes, but some things cancel the others out. Like karma. What goes around, comes around.

I don’t care what religion you follow (even if it’s your own), but for the most part, the majority try to follow their instincts and what they believe is right – even though we all have our differences.

I’m tired of people dictating to me what they think is right, without even explaining it. Remember our religion classes at school? It was always do this, do that, but no explanation as to WHY. As I grew up, I started reading and listening to some religious scholars, and I’m not afraid to say that a lot of them were phony and baloney!

I’m proud to say that I’ve grown more spiritual as I grew up, and my heart is filled with faith and love. I don’t cover my hair, I don’t cover my body from head-to-toe, and I don’t pray more than I have to.

I don’t equate covering my hair to stealing. I don’t equate wearing short skirts to drinking. The damage done to others by drinking or stealing outdoes any damage done by showing my hair and wearing a short skirt. Actually, it doesn’t even compare!

In a movie I saw called Brick Lane, a Muslim Indian man says in a town meeting regarding religion, “My Islam is in here (pointing to his heart).” I think this is so true, and should be followed by everyone, regardless of their religion. Basically, it means that your religion should be in your heart, and not just on the outside. What is the point of me covering my hair, if my heart is filled with envy and greed and evil?

Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest. I feel much better now. I don’t want anyone to feel bad because someone is making them guilty about not doing a small thing. If you look closely, you might be doing some great things in life – helping the poor, visiting relatives, being there for your parents, being a good parent, and lots and lots more.

Maybe if we stopped looking at the tiny things in life, and focused more on the bigger picture, we would help ourselves a lot more.

That’s just a piece of wisdom from this lady. Hope it helps :)